"And whatever I do, may it always bring glory to you"
Why is it that as the richest nation in the world, with all of our wealth, possesions, and gadgets, we as Americans are among the highest to battle depression and anxiety?
I was immediately convicted intrigued by this question posed by our Pastor this week. Why is it that even with Jesus permeating my heart, my love for Him greater than it has ever been, my family perfectly healthy and whole, my house overflowing with food and "stuff"...I still find myself at times, unhappy...unsettled...anxious...worried...irritable...joy"less"??? You know, like obsessing over the size 8 body that I seriously Talysa get over it because that was like 1998! used to have, or the Pottery Barn'esque rooms that I shamelessly slobber drool over but don't have, or the lady in my church...you know the one...that seems to just have it all together while you walk around like an unraveling hem line...yep, we all know her don't we? And probably waste beautiful time trying to be more like her... Or maybe it's fretting over how to make my marriage "fall apart proof", or what in the world to have for dinner tonight , or baking goodies for all my kids Sunday school teachers, or how I'm gonna make up the 2 weeks worth of school we are behind in right now, did I talk wayyyy too much in small group last night?...I am ashamed to admit that this list could go on and on....my name is Talysa and I am a habitual worrier....ahhh that feels better already! But this is also sinful....it is not what was intended for me...it is killing my joy.
What is Joy??? Joy:When we have a heart for God more than the world or it's circumstances
The same way that we are commanded to LOVE our neighbor as we love ourselves, we are also commanded to be Joyful! Pslam 40:16 & Phil 4:4 Which led to this wonderful beating over the head to get my attention discovery yesterday....Joy, just like love, is too often mistaken as an emotion....something you should feel or you must not have it right?? WRONG! JOY is a choice in the same way that LOVING my husband is a choice....not always a feeling!
And no, it is not always easy....but it is not impossible with the power of His Holy Spirit in us...Galatians 5:22
So when I've gained 10 pounds, I can choose to panic...or pray!....when my marriage hits a rough patch I can choose to worry....or worship! Regardless of my circumstance, He is still who He says He is! He is still worthy of my praise! My hope in who I am because of Him has not changed...so why should my JOY in Him change? We may not live problem FREE lives but through the Holy Spirits power within us, we have the choice to live JoyFILLED lives!!! It's a promise...and He always delivers on His promises!
Here are just a few ways we can have JOYFUL hearts this season...
1.Worship (Pslam 100:1-5 & Pslam 95:1-7)
2.Read the word...this is the number one reason we sometimes become Spiritually Depressed
3.Prayer...it is the ultimate expression of dependence...
I know this post is quite possibly hitting novel status but please do read on a bit further...Martyn Lloyd Jones may have just hit the nail on the head better than anyone in History! LOVE THIS!
Sidenote: The "man" he is referring to in this passage would be the author of Psalm 42:5-6
“Preach to yourself” by D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones
“Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself? Take those thoughts that come to you the moment you wake up in the morning. You have not originated them, but they start talking to you, they bring back the problems of yesterday, etc.
Somebody is talking. Who is talking? Your self is talking to you. Now this man’s (Psalmist in 42:5-6) treatment was this; instead of allowing this self to talk to him, he starts talking to himself. ‘Why art thou cast down, O my soul?’ he asks. His soul had been depressing him, crushing him. So he stands up and says: ‘Self, listen for a moment, I will speak to you.’…
The main art in the matter of spiritual living is to know how to handle yourself. You have to take yourself in hand, you have to address yourself, preach to yourself, question yourself. You must say to your soul: ‘Why art thou cast down’– what business have you to be disquieted?
You must turn on yourself, upbraid yourself, condemn yourself, exhort yourself, and say to yourself: ‘Hope thou in God’– instead of muttering in this depressed, unhappy way. And then you must go on to remind yourself of God, Who God is, and what God is and what God has done, and what God has pledged Himself to do.
Then having done that, end on this great note: defy yourself, and defy other people, and defy the devil and the whole world, and say with this man: ‘I shall yet praise Him for the help of His countenance, who is also the health of my countenance and my God.’”
–D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Spiritual Depression: Its Causes and Its Cure(Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1965/2002), 20-1.
This is our new addition this year....our "Jesus Tree"....every day our kids take turns placing a heart ornament on it with 25 of the many different names of Jesus...this has by far been one of the best things we have ever done....it only took us 10 years ya know! :-) I had always wanted to do an Advent Calendar with my kids but the perfectionist in me would never consider making one...you know, cause it wouldn't look "right"....and the tight wad in me wouldn't buy one cause they were always pretty costly in my book.....so the best of both worlds collided when I found this one.....ON CLEARANCE....at Target!!! This too has really brought us closer as a family....our kids look forward to seeing what that day holds for us as a family....also one of the best things we have ever incorporated into this Season!
We have a tradition in our house that goes a little like this....Nativity Set...minus Jesus....where is baby Jesus you ask? Well, he isn't born yet of course! We meet him every Christmas morning and place Him with His mom and dad and all of His peeps at the manger! Our kids fight over love placing Him out on Christmas morning! :-)
We have had the same ratty special stockings for 10 years....Adam and I made ours the year we met...and each of the kids...and dogs...have the year they came to be with us on theirs. I have been so tempted to replace them with some beautifully monogramed ones from Lands End....but just can't bring myself to do it....they are special and they will forever adorn my mantle....even when they are grown....there they will hang... waiting. Ok, I'm tearing up...let's move on....onto the fabulous Stocking Hangers I snagged on Clearance at Hobby Lobby....this is my first year to ever have holders so I almost peed my pants when I saw how nice they were made and that "peace" held each one of our family members and "joy" could hold our pooches...AND that they were 50% off!!!...they are indeed heavy enough to kill a small bear I think.
My cranberry wreath on the front door...and our wreaths on all of our windows out front...but it's sleeting here in TN and I wasn't about to take my precious new friend camera out into that mess!
A table of Christmas Past
This precious little display putting things into perspective...
My poor uneven, nailed into the frame, Mistletoe
My kids beautiful Christmas artwork all over my kitchen cabinets....yes, I really have come a long way! :-)
Boomama also asked us to leave a recipe on here so here goes....this is from an elderly lady in our old church and she says it was over 100 years old ....and I believe her! :-)
Christmas Wassail:
1 Can Pineapple Juice
1 Gallon Apple Cider
2 cinnamon sticks
1/2 tsp. nutmeg
zests of 1 lemon rind
Mix all together in large pot on the oven and heat....and enjoy the smell your house will have all day long!!!
"And whatever I do, may it always bring glory to you"
As always, be sure to read about McKMama and her Charming Kids with the link above...it is her idea after all! :-)
When asked to name the landmark on the screen during Trivial Pursuit, Tyler did not blurt out, "OOOhhh Ohhh I know!!! Big Henry!".......(it was Big Ben)
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ME: Aidan, how many seasons do we have?"
Aidan:"Four....Spring is cool....Summer is Hot....Fall is ummmmm...Leafy!...and Winter is cold"
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Aidan (while looking at a bag of Baked Scoops): "Mom, how do they make these so easy?"
Me: "What?" (completely clueless as to what he was talking about)
Aidan: "These chips, how do they make them so easy?"
Me: "Honey, what in the world are you talking about?"
Aidan: "It says here on the bag, Good Choices....Made Easy!"
"And whatever I do, may it always bring glory to you"
Is anyone else scrambling to get their Christmas "stuff" in order? You know, the tree, the decorations, the schedule for parties and special events at church? Does anyone else suffer from "perfectionism" (it is a disease you know!) like I do and make yourself miserable trying to make sure everything is "so so?"....you know, PERFECT! Seriously, I could (if not very careful) take something like decorating the tree and turn it into a very non enjoyable event because the ornaments are not spaced out enough...you know, for the slew of official tree Judges that will be coming through my house and all! Good Grief! I have no idea why I do this (and probably need medication for it!) So my prayers lately have been prayers of changing all that...trying this year to get back to basics...feeling the release from perfectionism bondage...to remember what this is all about anyway....not decorations...not the tree and it's symmetrical ornaments...and especially not finding "the perfect gift"...ooohh,I can really drive myself bonkers with this one! I want more for my kids....more than just the traditions.... I want them to grow closer to Christ throughout this month...in a real and authentic way...I want to shift their focus from Christmas wish lists to the Christmas Story...His story...His purpose...our purpose.
Our Jesus Tree has already been a huge help on our quest this year to "knowing Him" a little better...We read off lists of 100+ names for Jesus and the kids were supposed to tell us when one of the names I said made them think of who Jesus was to them....I loved that Aidan immediately said "Light" before I even started to read the list...Maggie tried correcting him suggesting he meant to say "Life"...but nope, he meant "Light!"...so we found that scripture...and maybe he had heard it before...maybe not...but I love that my little man had his mind made up about who Jesus was to him....names on it so far? Anointed, Light, Almighty, Prince of Peace, and Christ!
And the advent calendar....ahhh the advent calendar....I only wrote out our activities for one week since Adam works a crazy schedule....but I was overly ambitious I'm thinking! I know, shocking isn't it? :-) I never give my word unless I can keep it to them so I have been to the library twice hunting down "The Best Christmas Pageant Ever" movie...I'm still not sure why they wouldn't just give me the number of the bozo that checked it out and never brought it back! :-) We settled for the book as a family read aloud...And then there's "A Christmas Story"...found that at Blockbuster....and the book "The Crippled Lamb" (one of my absolute favs!)...had to hunt it down like a rabid dog!...why pray tell, did I commit to watching movies and reading books that we do not own?!?! So, moral of the story? Go light with your advent...don't be an overachiever...it could very well ruin your happy little advent festivities when you can't actually accomplish your plans....We did however have a great time decorating our Jesus Tree, reading our books over hot cocoa (Mary's Treasure Box is good as well), playing a game of Monopoly for five minutes before switching to Uno Attack,and watching "The Littlest Angel"...tonight? Sleeping bags in the living room floor, popcorn, and "A Christmas Story" for McManus, Party of Five...hmmm, well look at that....
........PERFECTION! :-)
So what do you and your family do to stay Christ focused during this season?__________________________________________________________________
And now, without further ado....Wordless Wednesday
What I have not however managed to do yet, is understand one blasted iota of the software to edit my pics so all of these pics are as taken...and that's all you may get...for a while because of course I have NOT yet signed up for he computer class it may very well take!